Being Grieved for the Hardness of Their Hearts

1 Nephi 7:8  As they returned from adding Ishmael and his family to their group, Laman and Lemuel and some of Ishmael's sons and daughters rebelled against Nephi, wanting to return to Jerusalem.  Nephi was forced to rebuke them, and tells us that he was grieved for the hardness of their hearts.

I love the cross-references for the word "grieved". 

• Mosiah 28:3  Now they were desirous that salvation should be declared to every creature, for they could not bear that any human soul should perish; yea, even the very thoughts that any soul should endure endless torment did cause them to quake and tremble.
• Alma 31:2  For it was the cause of great sorrow to Alma to know of iniquity among his people; therefore his heart was exceedingly sorrowful because of the separation of the Zoramites from the Nephites.
• 3 Nephi 17:14  And it came to pass that when they had knelt upon the ground, Jesus groaned within himself, and said: Father, I am troubled because of the wickedness of the people of the house of Israel.
•  Moses 7:41  And it came to pass that the Lord spake unto Enoch, and told Enoch all the doings of the children of men; wherefore Enoch knew, and looked upon their wickedness, and their misery, and wept and stretched forth his arms, and his heart swelled wide as eternity; and his bowels yearned; and all eternity shook.

This grieving for the wickedness of men isn't just annoyance or momentary worry.  This is gut-wrenching, quake-and-tremble, exceedingly sorrowful, eternity-shaking misery.  I can tell I'm not there yet, because when I see wickedness I mostly shake my head and am disgusted.  Nephi's kind of grieving is based on love for those people who are sinning.  If you don't love them, you really don't care that much what they do.  This is another manifestation of charity, or the pure love of Christ.  Charity loves those people, and "suffereth long" for their sins.  I pray to be filled with this love.